The empathy trap: therapists and counselors almost by definition are empathic, to facilitate clients’ recovery - but this quality can mean those carers are targets for sociopaths, aided by what Dr Jane & Tim McGregor call “apaths”. The first…
Important read for all empaths, whether degreed or not. I got stories. Doozies. I could write a book. Actually, I’m writing it now.
[I’m not homesteading just for the gardening, yo.]
My mom just read this article to me and it was like getting hit upside the head with a 2x4. This explains so fucking much. If you’ve ever been the target of manipulation or emotional abuse, this is definitely worth a read.
Know the signs, learn how to protect yourself from emotional vampires, both passive and active.
So, yeah. I know you’re tired of hearing about rape culture. But I’m tired of my friends getting raped.
I know you’re tired of hearing about abortion. I am too. So stop trying to tell me what to do with my uterus, and I promise you won’t hear another word from me about it.
I know men and women are different from each other. I’m just tired of that fact being used to excuse the inexcusable.
I know you’re tired of hearing about income inequality. But fuck you, pay us.
This is how it works. We get mad, we fight, we get tired, we get mad, we start again. Rinse, repeat. Feminism isn’t without its flaws, and it doesn’t seem able to speak with one voice or crystallize answers on the darker, stickier aspects of human nature and sexuality. But if I may get Rumsfeldian for a minute, this is the army we have. The fight comes to us whether we seek it or not, whether we want it or not, and whether we are ready or not.”
I know you’re tired of hearing about racism. I’m tired of children of color getting murdered by white people and cops.
I know you’re tired of hearing the word “cis”. I’m tired of trans people getting erased, dehumanized, and murdered.
In the words of Catherynne M. Valente, I’ll stop telling this story when it stops happening to me.